“That’s so gay!”
I can’t count how many times I’ve heard this statement made in an offensive fashion in my lifetime. Honestly, I have had to forgive myself for sometimes following others and taking part in this commonplace phrase in my adolescent years. Back then I attempted to fit in and act as a parrot at best. At the time I (like I think most people who say homophobic comments) didn’t have any (openly) gay friends. Therefore, I knew nothing about what GAY really meant or WHO they were.
Growing up in the Indian culture in San Francisco was sort of an oxymoron as I learned. Many values clashed, for instance, the freedom to marry who you wish regardless of caste, ethnicity, nationality, religion, and of course, gender. Seeing men publicly kiss and women hold hands was normal, just not to those who immigrated to the United States like my family and the majority of American families.
Since then, I have had friends come out to me and family members too. I have been accepted for my quirkiness and loved on by so many people from the LGBT community that I cannot be a happier ally to them!
Based on my friendships and connections to the passionate LGBT community, “That’s so GAY” actually now means to me:
Being True to Oneself
Believing in Oneself
Self-Awareness: Knowing oneself better than anyone else
Freedom to Love Oneself
Freedom to Love Others
Throughout history, there have been brilliant or famous people who have had same sex relationships, openly and not as openly. The list includes Versace, Michelangelo, Abraham Lincoln, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Marlon Brando to name a few. Learn more about gays in history here:
Famous Gays in History
Thank you queer community for accepting me, making me feel safe, and inspiring me to follow my heart! It was truly an honor to interview 3 young people from your community and the generosity of others in helping make the video possible!